There’s the rub, none of these laws really address the problem at hand. They neither deter people from committing sex crimes or protect the vulnerable. Yes, not everyone can heal. Some victims have been abused for so long or horrifically enough that they don’t fully ever heal. But those who can get therapy can recover and heal.
By your logic, I should never forgive the two inmates who beat me while at VCBJ. I certainly can’t forget, but that moment and my arrest do not define who I am. If you speak for those who suffer in silence, then reach out to them. Advocate for mental health care. Go to a support program and listen.

Not everyone is repairable just because you healed. There are many who Suffer in silence, and I speak for them. If what happened to you u are OK with and have forgiven that PERP good for you. But I feel differently, and I support all of the new Laws being passed to showcase who these people are in our society.

As a victim of many crimes including sexual offenses, I disagree. I am not permanently broken or changed beyond full repair. That suggest that in some way I am less of a person than I would have been, I personally find that insulting. No, not everyone is me, nor their experiences the same, but I can speak for a small handful of others who feel as I do. We have discussed this and we are tired of seeing others and other victims telling us we are some how flawed for life. Placing a label on me.

I met a guy who was putting gas in his boat and I in my car and a conversation started. He said he was part of program that took veterans out on his boat, He shared that many veterans thank him as they found it therapeutic and were sick and tired of therapy where they have to constantly re-live their horror. This was a very long time ago and I remember thinking I will remember this conversation. And here we are….Sometimes it can be to much or to long. Each person is different of course. But this constant reinforcing idea that you could never be the person you would have been other wise is not a good message. I wish people would reflect more on what it means to hear this….over and over.

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I feel like it’s closer to 90% based on what I see and many who aren’t diagnosed. But the most important of all this is what the damage has caused the Victim.

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Sir unless you have been or are a Victim, you’ll never understand so we will agree to disagree.

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Your link is to a … survey and some random info about mental illnesses? There’s absolutely nothing in there referencing a 90% anything. Would you kindly link an actual source for your statistics please?

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I’m not sure I understand your counterpoint. You’re saying that therapy doesn’t work? For some people, yes, therapy can take years. But that does not mean that therapy does not work. As I said before, SA/AA teaches that you cannot forget the past. However, in order to heal that one has to be able to makes amends, forgive and have the courage to move forward with their lives. In a larger sense this works for both sides. To stay fixated on the negative draws strength from tomorrow. I don’t doubt that a victim’s life is changed, but they’re not unable to heal. We don’t throw away a life because of a negative.

Doesn’t answer the question of where you say that ninety percent of people don’t heal. We know that there are barriers to healing because of access, financial, or society. We don’t address it well enough. As for the causes, I don’t think that being oversexed is the main cause. Until the addict comes to realize that they have a problem, they are usually powerless to heal. Addiction is nothing new. MTV didn’t cause it. Neither did Playboy or Elvis.

Sir you missed the whole analogy of the 2. For most people Therapy will not do a dang thang for some, but it has to be ongoing for the rest of their lives if they do get better. Once a tragic event happens in the mindset of many it never goes away. You can never straighten out a car that’s been T-Bone and expect for it to drive normal. It has to be melted down and remolded. This is why alot people commit suicide cus they can’t get past that hurt and pain no matter how much therapy they consume. IJS