Yes, good response. I do think that MOST people who love the “victim for life” stance have that mostly so they can feel better just about themselves. And so many of them do things simply because it is a current popular thing to be doing. For whatever it is worth, but I find it interesting at least, I have found that most people who think like this truly are not smart. I believe that is the case.

I was molested many, many times as a child. It was not violent. It was not right but I can’t say that it even bothered me that much. I wasn’t even angry about it in high school or college. Certainly doesn’t negatively affect me today. There are even photos and video of it, probably circulating around somewhere. My federal government tells me that I’m a victim today and that I’m harmed every time someone sees that. They say that I should be notified of every time that someone looks at it! And even be compensated by the people. Pretty sure they want me to be a victim for life. It does give them jobs and gives their lives purpose, I guess.

Whatever. I realize that everyone handles being a crime victim in different ways. It didn’t affect me long but it probably does affect some people for a long time. That doesn’t magically make Registries useful or effective.

FAC can obviously do whatever they like, but I personally wouldn’t post things from “people” like “David”. It doesn’t really do anything useful. If you want to see comments like that, you can go to thousands of more “public” websites, groups, whatever, and read and respond to thousands of them. I just feel like for advocacy groups like FAC that it would be a lot better if they just focused on positivity, reality, and kept negative liars away. They can lie elsewhere.

Hey David – get over it. Yes, they have paid their debt to society! You might not agree but so what – the law says they have so until you are a judge you will need to deal with it.

Sorry but a murderer can do their time and move on – lets see – a dead person will never recover from it…and yet – people like YOU foolishly thing that one life event is worse than ending a life!

What kind of delusional monster are you?

David. A person that has been sexually molested does have to live with that the rest of their lives-that is true.
However, almost all have been able to recover, marry, or not marry, and lead productive, normal lives, and are generally happy.
It is a different ball game with sex offenders.
They are punished for the rest of their lives beyond the sentence they served, even long after their victim recovered and is living a normal life or close to normal life.
Sex offenders are NOT allowed to live a normal, productive life after they have completed their sentence regardless of the state of their victim.
They are hated, scorned, shunned, banished, un-forgiven, un-redeemable, etc. by society for the rest of their lives-they are in essence punished twice for the same crime. Once by the Penal Institution, and then again by society for the rest of their lives.
No one should have to be punished for the same crime twice-no one!
Also, the most horrible punishment isn’t in prison…..it’s out here, and sometimes it’s repeatedly traumatic due to vandalism, the ongoing abolishment from public places like gyms, amusement parks, libraries, etc. and the never-ending ‘hate mail’ from people who never even were sexually abused to begin with, but just joining in with the Status Quo beliefs of others.
Then there’s the absolutely useless new laws that further restrict them which sends a wrong signal to the public that they are beyond help and to be outcasts of society.
A victim of molestation can recover and lead a normal or very close to normal life.
A sex offender can NOT. They are ruthlessly hated and punished by society the rest of their lives even after their sentence is completed and IT IS NOT RIGHT!!!!
It seems as though there is NO amount of good a sex offender can do to redeem themself back to society, even if they were to save a family from a house fire, or land a plane full of people because the pilot had a heart attack-someone out there would say ‘Yeah, but did you know they are a sex offender?’

Tell that to my daughter. She has come to learn that forgiveness is the great healer. Today we get along just fine and concentrate on rebuilding our family. She even told me that she has no fear of my taking her daughter places without her accompaniment. She knows what happened 20 years ago, knows why it happened, and knows that I have paid a dear price to attain restoration as her father and as a grandfather. Playing the lifetime ‘victim card’ is a ticket to nowhere. Being a proponent of forgiveness will do so much more to heal families and victims.

Well said, Jacob.

Dear David:

I am required to register in Florida as a sexual offender for life because, when I was 25 years old (I am now 47), I briefly had consensual sexual activity with a 17 year-old male. I have not been arrested for any offense before or since. The police eventually sent the case to the state attorney’s office because his mother couldn’t accept that her son was gay and somehow, even though he was 17 at the time, I must have tricked him into it (which is not what happened). The case was resolved when he was 19 and he never wanted it to be prosecuted (only his mother did). I was sentenced to probation, which was terminated early. My offense involved no violence or threat of violence whatsoever. Do your comments apply equally to me and others like me? If so, what is your rationale for that?

Right on Jacob! Instead of letting the Victim and the accused both heal they both are drag through the mud for the local news’ entertainment.

Molestation victims endure a lifetime of punishment, when they have people like you persuading them that they are forever doomed and there is no hope for recovery. In fact, people like you create new child victims by advocating for the separation of children from their families, as the state of TN attempted to do here (see above) and which you appear to support.

Face it, David: you don’t actually care that much about the welfare of children, do you? Instead you are looking to convince yourself that you are moral than others. Reality check: you’re not.

Since you did not mention the multitude of other crimes that require registration, I take it that you at least have enough sense to support the rehabilitation of THOSE registrants.

FAC, thank you for posting David’s thoughts. That helps people like me expose the hypocrisy of David and millions just like him.

Paid There Debt To Society?? A person that’s been Sexually Molested lives with it the rest of there life. There is No limit on how they are having to deal with the ignorance of another person taking something from them in a violent manner!

Hiring lawyers to fight our battles for us is one way but not the only or the best way. We must be the front line in our struggle.

What a public prosecutor fears most is that a defendant will have a private attorney, which means he can lose the case and his resume will look bad.

Ask people who have been through the system if the police or some pre-trial LEO official asked the suspect what he did for a living. This is the key question and LEO officials are told by the DA to ask it before trial.

The police or other officials will ask it so fast or seeminly casually, or slip into a form, that the suspect may not spot it.