Even though FAC, whose opinions I have great respect for, has pointed out that many of these insane laws have indeed come from men, I cannot help but think about Lauren Book’s new proposed law that is redefining the definition of rape — similar to what North Carolina did. I just checked the definition of rape: the crime of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will. No where does it say that the person can be consenting and enticing throughout 90% of the act and can then at any time withdraw consent, thereby making it rape if the act does not stop immediately.

I think the judges forget the old mantra, ” Innocent until proven guilty” and just label everyone who comes before them as guilty until proven innocent.

They can say all the BS they want about my charge, but in the end, the actuality of it actually hurt noone. It is they who actually caused the damages that may have occurred, not myself. Asking a minor a simple question which is sexual in nature and them taking it wrongly by not actually paying attention, is what caused my charge to be deemed attempted solicitation of a minor. Not actual solicitation, but attempted in their own words, heck even the prosecutor wanted it reduced to a misdemeanor offense, bit oh no not the judge. My word vs the supposed victim, simple case, but who does a jury believe? It took 2 plea deals to finally settle for 24month doc with 1 year time served and no probation and withhold adjudication. Lot of good that did!

Bill
It seems there is no end in sight as to what lawmakers can get away with. No one at the top seems to give two shits about us or our families and loved ones.
Remember the Lepers ? Now that is us.
Remember the Scarlet letter ? That is us.

When I saw the people being sent to tent camps with the coronavirus, I immediately thought that could be all of us some day. Giant camps for all on the registry. Forced to plant potatoes to earn our daily cup of rice.
How can one possibly be rehabilitated when they are held down by so many restrictions, finding a job or a place to live is like trying to catch a fish in a dry lake bed.

Tereto,
Please do not insult our male private parts by comparing them to lowly lawmakers. 🙂
I would compare them to what comes out a dog’s anus after eating wet, canned dog food. At least the ones who keep attacking us with new unconstitutional laws to make themselves look good on crime while tearing apart our families.
Some would say we tore apart our own families by getting arrested. Well, yes they did have to go through Hell because of us, but we have moved on and healed only to have the registry Nazis move in and put targets on our families.
When vigilantes burn down a house, it is not just the registrant inside but their kids, wife / husband, and maybe extended family and even our pets that could be harmed or killed.

FAC
Thank You for the facts.
My main point I was trying to make was not that women were in some way irresponsible and not capable of leadership roles , but rather that women who take up support and expansion of the registry are doing there gender a great disservice.
Many ladies on this site have shown great insight and bravery in making a stand for what is just. As men we can’t thank you enough because with out your support this fight could. Not succeed . It would simply be looked at as an egotistical mans way of looking at the problem.

Jacob – Also in most cases (almost all) the men in advocacy are the perpetrators and the women are the spouse or mother of the registrant. That says A LOT!!!

Sarah – I don’t mean to call you out, but since you responded to DavidM’s comment and have been pretty open with the FAC community about your situation… you stood by your husband through incarceration and even picked up and moved your life to accommodate his restrictions. You’ve demonstrated that you are strong, committed and unwavering in your loyalty. That type of “ride or die” character does not fold under social pressure, take the easy way out or pass “emotional and not thoughtful” laws, as DavidM suggested.

And DavidM. The sponsor of the Jacob Wetterling Act was Jim Ramstad. The sponsor of Megan’s Law was Dick Zimmer. The sponsor of the Adam Walsh Act was Jim Sensenbrenner. The sponsor of International Megan’s Law was Christopher Smith.

I as a woman have to say you have made some very good points here. I never thought about the fact that so many of these insane laws have come from women. For years I have felt there is a small minority of very outspoken women who are trying to mess up everything for the rest of us: male/female relationships; freedom to be feminine; freedom from being drafted and having to fight in a battle as though we are men. I might get shot down for this, but I agree with everything you said.

I agree with Alan, what the hell is a 21 year old doing in a public school ??

as far as the bill goes.. he was apparently dating this girl who was friend of his sisters, not just some random girl at school, so, even if he was not in the school, he still had access to her

and lastly … where the hell were her and his parents ?? there is no way neither knew they were dating. ANY parent who would allow a 21 year old to ” date” a school aged person is culpable also for allowing it.
Obviously his parents knew he should not be alone with any underage girl, alone, in his bedroom..

Don’t forget that like 99% of the time it’s women taking the lead in reforming/ abolishing registries, whether it be FAC, ACSOL, NARSOL, or Women Against Registry.

Well, maybe not 99%, but well over half.

International Megan’s Law was written by a man, and even just the other day, its author was bragging about how great IML is. Tennessee’s mandatory castration bill, I could go on. I wouldn’t draw too much of a conclusion about women/men legislators from just a few bad apples.

I do agree that leadership of FAC, including board members, committee chairs, and volunteers, men and women, are friggin incredible.