Rachel d, you are aware that your husband does not have to comply with compliance checks, right? While its cool that they seem to be respectful about it, I would handle it differently. If they called me to verify I would be home, I would politely tell them that anything they need to verify can be found in the paperwork they have when I do my in person verifications, and that I do not know if I will be home or not because I’m a free man and I might make last minute plans to go somewhere. Then I would tell them that I do not answer my door between the hours of 5:00 pm to 8:00 am, so it would be a waste of their time to come check on me. If they call you to ask if your husband will be home at a certain time, I would be more inclined to say he’s a grown man and can speak to himself, or ask why they ask, is he on probation or something and required to be home?
I simply refuse to cooperate with police in any way unless it benefits me or my family in some way, but that’s just me.

Local police departments may have a policy to do these checks, but policies are NOT laws, and NOWHERE is it written in any SORA law that compliance checks are a requirement, therefore, you do not have to abide by their policies regarding these checks. Since the checks are NOT laws, you do not have to cooperate with the police, nor do you even have to open the door. In the past, I’ve found a simple “get the F off my property!” to be quite effective in making them get back in their cars and leaving. I once had police show up at the early morning hours in plain clothes driving unmarked cars. I knew they were cops but I called the sheriff to report armed intruders on my property. It was quite hilarious when the sheriff showed up. They did try to lecture me but I told him he wasn’t my dad lol. A couple other deputies thought it was quite funny.
I may be a little more blunt than you are, but I believe in standing up for my rights and speaking what’s on my mind.
If I were you, I would also take other’s advice and file a complaint. In the future if it happens again, maybe politely ask them for their names and badge numbers, and once provided, say thank you for providing the information for you to file a complaint then close the door without saying anything else. File that complaint. Maybe nothing will come of it, but maybe the higher ups in the department will take note of it and leave you and your son alone. You won’t know if you don’t try.
You don’t deserve to go through this, so I hope it works out in your favor. Please keep us informed.

Karen, the policy is to conduct address verifications. I doubt there’s any policy of doing them at 3 in the morning, or with the light bar on. If there is, that’s even sillier. It doesn’t hurt to ask them.

I am curious, since most counties do this, do we know where this policy came from? Does the sheriff have to have a formal policy about it? Would I file the complaint with the sheriff or some other entity? Thank you!

I have doorbell video from it with date and timestamp

Absolutely file a complaint against the sheriff. If it was me I would have all of this on video with date and time.

Karen, this would be a reason to file a complaint against the Volusia County sheriff.

Thank you and that sounds horrible!! Usually they try to be discreet but this “you know what” wasn’t. The hour was bad enough but having the light bar going like he was on a call made me furious and then to sit in front of the house in his car with the lights still going was uncalled for!

Old Karen, Sorry for the bad experience. You are right though; its NOT a requirement.
I used to live in a city where the cops would come repeatedly day after day at 2 in the morning right after I verified. It was infuriating to say the least. I mean, I can almost understand coming one time, but to come 4 or 5 days in a row and always waking me up at god awful hours was just plain harassment. One day I finally had enough and let them have it good, throwing every name in the book at them and cussed them out royally before slamming the door in their faces so hard it shook my house. Needless to say, they stopped their BS and I soon moved out of that city where I have been for 5 years now without a single harassment check.
I can’t tell you or your son what to do, but as long as you keep bowing down to them, the harassment will never end. Stand up for yourself and assert your and your son’s rights because there’s not a damn thing they can do about it (unless he’s on parole or probation). They may come back the next day, or maybe they won’t, but in all likelihood they will get the message and stop coming to your house.
Cops love asserting power and authority over those who allow it, but if you start asserting your own authority and rights, they’ll soon stop harassing you.